5 Ways to be happier in life
- Gratitude
Sometimes when we are depressed and overloaded by sadness, we tend to
forget our daily blessings, therefore we have a tendency to get sucked into this
darkness more and more. However, if we remember to be grateful, so much turmoil
can be avoided. We can be grateful for a lot of things, like having a loving
family, your BFF, a furry friend, even having
food at your table everyday (Approximately 842 million people
suffer from hunger worldwide. That’s almost 12 percent of the world’s
population) or just being alive.
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| (Each time I look at him, it feels like my heart will explode with love and happiness) |
Sometimes, we need to zoom out and look at the bigger picture. When we
are depressed, we lean towards negativity and self-pity, but if we put things
into perspective and be grateful for what we have instead of looking for what
we don’t have, can be a self-sabotaging tendency that could lead to more
depression and darkness. Start with a list of everything that you’re grateful
for, participate in gratitude challenges, be aware of the words and thoughts
you thinking and finally do one random act of kindness every day. It can be holding
the door to the person behind you, giving money to a person in need, a genuine
compliment or just a smile. And never forget a grateful heart is a magnet for
miracles
2. Check the 3 boxes
Every time you are feeling down, ask yourself 3 questions: Am I hungry?
Did I get enough sleep? Am I thirsty? This can sound silly, but being uncomfortable
is much related to those three things. When you don’t have enough sleep, you
can be easily irritated and quick to respond to every stimulus in your
environment, from cursing to the A**hole driver next to you to picking a fight
with your bae for a text that sounded not right.
Being mindful of your state, and a good self-care routine, can be a key for being more relaxed and
prepared for all the daily challenges that you can ever face. So eat healthy,
drink a lot of water, and get enough sleep. Go GIRL
3. Stop comparing yourself to others
AHH this one is a little harder, we all did it, looking at Facebook profiles and Instagram pictures and thinking deep down that those persons have a better life than us, a simple thought that can grow like a seed, then you find yourself swimming in regrets and bitterness. But think for a second, when you want to post a picture, don’t you look at it a hundred times before, to make sure it’s the perfect caption that will express this tremendous happiness that you’re living in this exact moment? We all do.
So before saying that this person have a great life, or that they are better than you, think! We are not the same (thankfully!), imagine a world with no differences, having identical experiences, it will be lifeless.
And next time you start having those thoughts, don’t compare yourself, instead use it as a motivator to enhance your life and be passionate about what you do and have.
3. Stop comparing yourself to others
AHH this one is a little harder, we all did it, looking at Facebook profiles and Instagram pictures and thinking deep down that those persons have a better life than us, a simple thought that can grow like a seed, then you find yourself swimming in regrets and bitterness. But think for a second, when you want to post a picture, don’t you look at it a hundred times before, to make sure it’s the perfect caption that will express this tremendous happiness that you’re living in this exact moment? We all do.
So before saying that this person have a great life, or that they are better than you, think! We are not the same (thankfully!), imagine a world with no differences, having identical experiences, it will be lifeless.
And next time you start having those thoughts, don’t compare yourself, instead use it as a motivator to enhance your life and be passionate about what you do and have.
4. Look inward:
Go easy on yourself, the first person who need your help is you, look at
your story with compassion and love, don’t be judgmental and condemnatory. You can start by answering those simple
questions, like what was the most painful experience to go through? What was
the biggest challenge for you? Your biggest regrets? Etc.
When you start this process, the
first steps are the hardest, but then you will make it a habit, and habits are
the first steps to a life style, and never forget looking outside motivates but
looking inward awakens.
5. Feel, think say and do:
Simple mantra, but a lot of work. I’ve always thought that the best state
a person can achieve is feeling and thinking the same thing, have the courage
to tell the truth and follow it in our day to day life. When I was younger, I was
a people pleaser, I avoided conflict and had a lot of friend. But was it me
that they liked or the image that I was projecting? Of course it was not me, I
did not even know back then how I was ( I don’t say that I know who I’m now, it’s
a life time journey)
But the universe always crumble weak foundations, I went through some
rough time, and I knew that I needed to change myself to carry on. And this is
where I started to love myself more, and had this mantra about honoring my
feelings and my thoughts. Whenever I want to say or do something, I stop for a
moment and think, is it an interpretation for what I feel? What I really think?
Will I do it? If I don’t, so it’s no longer relevant. By doing it I can guarantee you peace of mind.
Be kind, be love, you're enough
xoxo
Meryame
